Below is a wonderful entry written by a friend of mine. I thought it would be a nice and sweet word to all the parents of the world. Enjoy!
AN OPEN LETTER TO PARENTS
by Jared Hollier (if you click on his pretty blue name you can visit his website!)
Dear parents of the world,
First of all, let me say that I’m not writing to you as an uninformed onlooker, but as one of you. My wife and I have young children- I know what I’m talking about. I’m in the trenches with you, covered in spit-up, stepping on Legos, doling out chewy vitamins and pancakes every morning. I’m one of you.
So understand that I speak from a position of experience, if not authority, when I say:
You’re doing it wrong.
And by “it,” I mean raising your children. You’re not very good at it. You’re pretty lousy, in fact. Every decision you make, every meal you prepare (or fail to prepare), every holiday tradition you have, everything you do is just dripping with ineptitude, and it’s clearly an act of God and evidence of His mercy that your kids have survived this long.
And I’m not exaggerating when I say every single thing you’re doing, you’re doing incorrectly. Pick a topic. Any subject at all. Education, Santa Claus, chicken nuggets, playgrounds, Sesame Street- it doesn’t matter, just pick anything at all that you, as a parent, have to make decisions about.
Now Google it.
See there? Dozens of articles saying the opposite of what you’ve been doing. How could you be so uninformed? In this age of information, surrounded by experts (and bloggers), how could you have gone this long in such blatant ignorance? With brilliant resources like Facebook and Google at your disposal, how is it that you’re still living in such darkness? Apologize to your children and pray that you haven’t scarred them for life. Repent before the Lord in sackcloth and ashes, and ask for His help to turn from your failures.
I pray that your kids will forgive you, and may God have mercy on your soul.
What I’d really like to say is this: if you love your kids a lot, and they know it without question, I think you’re probably doing alright.
I believe this, in large part, because 1 Peter 4:8 says, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
Hand-me-down clothes, cereal for dinner, falling behind on your Advent calendar, messy bedrooms, sticky floors, forgetting to send that thing to school, running low on groceries so your four year old gets a biscuit with jelly and Ritz crackers for lunch (happened in our house yesterday)- those things can all be covered over by love.
Just because someone has a blog, doesn’t make them an expert. (Except me. I know everything.) Quit letting strangers (that you don’t know, with different backgrounds, different beliefs, raising different kids in different parts of the world) make you feel bad about the way you’re doing it. That’s just silly.
The truth is this: if you care about your kids enough to read a bunch of articles on how to be a better parent, you’re probably doing pretty well already. You care enough to try, and that’s what our kids need most, right? I mean, they need food, water, clothes, and shelter, too, but most of all they need to know that Mom and Dad love them unconditionally, and will always be there for them. Make loving your kids bigtime the number one priority in your “parenting style” and everything else will work out ok, I think.